Do you have the ability to accept the things you can change and the things you cannot change? Do you have the ability to accept that other people are opt to change them, rather than you changing them? Do you accept that you are who you are, regardless of what others think? Can you accept the many changes that take place in your life?
If you answered yes to one or all of these questions then you are off to the start of improving your personal life. If you are willing to accept, you have the ability to laugh, even when something doesn’t look funny at a first glance.
For instance, if someone pushed you, you can choose to focus on how bad you feel about yourself or you could stand back and laugh having the ability to see the situation –and the behaviour of other person- as comical, attention-seeking, or anything else. The push is only a threat to your emotion, which you will see, accept and find a way to gain control of the situation.
When you can accept things in life, including yourself and others, you find a way to take control. When you are in control, it helps you to see how you can improve your personal life and aids you through your journey. When you learn to accept you will learn to discover your true potential.
Accepting
The great emphasis is put on the importance of ‘accepting’ but do we know what does it really mean? In NLP there is something called ‘presupposition’. To cut long story short, when we presuppose certain outcome of the situation it affects our entire physiology and mental processes. We tune in our internal filters to notice the evidence supporting our belief and, subsequently, become more confident in doing what we do.
In some cases we become the top gurus of ‘successfully doing’ our problem, day after day.
By presupposing that change will be easy and rewarding you are destining yourself to find out that you were right. Presupposing that persons have positive intentions behind their behaviour is a first leap towards positive change in your own life.
Individuality is personal, philosophers tend to over generalise this subject. However, many people in the world believe that when we act the same way at all times, we have established our identity. Politically incorrect! We have emotions, thoughts, behaviours, actions, and have been plagued by a world of influences both good and bad. Each day we will feel something new, which causes our personality to reflect on these changes. Therefore, when you see someone laughing one minute and crying the next, you are seeing a shift in emotions that is a normal pattern of identity for this person. Unless the person’s views change, behaviours change dramatically, friends change regularly, etc, and you are seeing common behaviours.
Judgements as basic process of our mind
We live in a world that desensitizes us. At any given time we are surrounded by roughly 4 billion bits of information and in order to cope with all that our mind uses various filters. It helps us to process the information quicker and more efficiently but is a source of primary unconscious judgments and results in first involuntary responses. We are surrounded by billions of influences on television, in the media, on radio, in households, government, schools et al. Each to their own, but everyone is judging someone at some time, which is something we have to accept. We cannot change these people’s behaviours and their way of thinking, but we can change ours. This is a part of learning and accepting. The best way around the world is to become your own influence and allow other influences to make someone else’s life miserable… or great, depending on what they choose for themselves. Positive reflections are the key to living happier.
If you answered yes to one or all of these questions then you are off to the start of improving your personal life. If you are willing to accept, you have the ability to laugh, even when something doesn’t look funny at a first glance.
For instance, if someone pushed you, you can choose to focus on how bad you feel about yourself or you could stand back and laugh having the ability to see the situation –and the behaviour of other person- as comical, attention-seeking, or anything else. The push is only a threat to your emotion, which you will see, accept and find a way to gain control of the situation.
When you can accept things in life, including yourself and others, you find a way to take control. When you are in control, it helps you to see how you can improve your personal life and aids you through your journey. When you learn to accept you will learn to discover your true potential.
Humour as a tool
Once you learn to accept you will be eager to laugh. For instance, if someone makes you mad you will see the humour in his or her actions. You may see the humour in your actions if you make a mistake and feed into their ‘stupidity’.
Once you start to see the humour in life, the challenges ahead of you will cease being so terrifying. We are involved in an unruly world filled with ‘greedy people’, ‘envious souls’, ‘lusty tigers’, and so on. We have to learn how to work around the circumstances, accept ourselves and move on. Once you learn to change to better yourself, other people may follow. Good conduct has proven far more effective than words to encourage others to change.
What next
The way our sub-consciousness is designed is that it always seeks for more, wants to know more, experience more. As you grow you will feel a new hunger, and that hunger will guide you to discover new ways to better you. In time as you start to feel better, you will see a need to exercise, eat right, and hang out with positive influences. Once you feel this hunger, you will feel inspired to labour to achieve your goals.
